In a fight, the moment you get angry, you lose.

2014/07/25

怒らない技術

Polisi (police) and Imigrasi (immigration)

Indonesia is an "invisible class society," and class standards vary from office to money, and class consciousness is particularly strong among officials and rich people.

It is very difficult to judge whether the person is just trying to fulfill his or her duties strictly, wearing a cloak of authority and being mean, or whether he or she is unelected.

I hear all sorts of bad things about the police and imitators, but in my experience, they never accuse people who are not at fault for anything.

For example, if you drive from Pulogadung to central Jakarta, you will run into an overpass of Tol, which is usually guarded by policemen, who will stop and fine you if you are late to the left lane before you turn left.

I have been fined twice even though I knew this, but in this case, it's like the difference between a foul taken or not taken by the referee in football. I thought I had enough time to take a foul, but the police didn't think so.

So I think it's a waste of energy to put up a futile resistance here.

  • I thought I had plenty of time, but... Hmm, I'm sorry.

I just smiled and got a ticket and said goodbye.

Whether this fine goes into the treasury or into the cop's pocket is another matter, but just like a football or baseball umpire, it ultimately follows the judgment.

My wife doesn't back down until she's beaten a policeman, but I'm sorry to say I don't have this talent.

Security guard at the apartment.

The other day there was an unexpected situation that irritated me. The apartment security guard (Satpam).

When I leave the parking lot of my apartment, the automatic gate opens by scanning my ID card, but for some reason it doesn't open only on that day.

Because of myself, there was a long queue behind me, and I was very sorry and impatient as a Japanese, but fortunately a security guard who was near me came.

  • Why won't it open when I scan it?

When I apologetically explained to him, the guard looked very annoyed.

  • You didn't scan your ID card when you pulled into the parking lot when you got home last night, did you? I'm not registered as In at that time, so I can't go out.

He said coldly.

Come on, that's not possible. In the first place, if I don't scan an ID card when coming home, I can't enter a parking lot, and I don't have the dexterous skill that I cling to the back and enter with the timing of the car in front of me like Mr. Bean, and there is no reason to be made my fault anyway.

In such a situation, I am as annoyed as others, but they have their own circumstances.

  1. He is on a mission to protect security (and that's his job).
  2. There is no obligation to provide kind hospitality(Not a hotelier).

Even if you can get emotional here and say something to the other person, there's nothing to be gained.

So you have to accept that it can't be helped the first time, and the important thing is whether you can keep your head down without getting annoyed the second time around.

For this reason, I will gently add the apartment security guard to my "reserve list of irritating people" and be mentally prepared to remember the above situation the next time I encounter the same scene. In practice, it's not something that can be practiced like this according to theory, but I think it's effective enough as a deterrent to anger.

Apartment agent.

It was two weeks before my renewal date that I was informed by my apartment agent of the rental rate increase.

I can't believe you're saying this at such a critical moment.

  • There's no time to find the next room. I don't think so.

When I complained about it, the agent's older brother looked at me with a frown

  • Well, two weeks would be enough for you.

I said. This guy is... (angry).

Probably because it's a lender's market, he has a lot of customers and he's probably well off himself, so he can say such bullish things, but I guess the only people who don't get their heads around this are Mahatma Gandhi or Mother Teresa.

It's not fair and unreasonable by any means, but it's not a good idea to get emotional here.

First of all, this room that you are renting now has a lot of merits even if you judge from the advance information and the market price, and the risk of realized loss and unrealized loss is too high to move to another room.

  1. Sunny and spacious living room.
  2. I like being on a high floor.
  3. Certainly cheaper than the market price (I'm guessing it's about 10% or more)

How do you maintain your normalcy when someone says something that offends you? We know we lose money when we get emotional. Then, in order to solemnly take advantage of the benefits, the only way to do so is to prepare in advance, and to respond to the manual as much as possible.

However, I can't maintain a balance between my thoughts and emotions unless I get angry here, so I calmly tell them that I'm very offended, and then I take some time to negotiate the price.

Well, my opponent would lose at least a month's worth of money if he could get out just before the day off from Levaran, so as expected, he gave in on the next day.

Well, it was difficult to judge whether this was seen as a negotiating success or whether it was actually seen as only being carried by the other party, but it became a result which did not leave a lump afterwards because it was settled in a line cheaper than the market price which had been obtained with prior information by a large amount of money.

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